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Welcome to my Blog!

The purpose of this blog is to help people become aware of who I am and what I value. Here I intend to share my thoughts and opinions in a personable manner without boring you with the minutia of my personal life. I hope that the pieces I share here with you will also enhance your own life and give you insight into matters and topics I believe affect us all. You are welcome here! Please visit often, share your own responses in the comment area, and join me in this journey!


Counseling is healing the relationship with you

"Counseling is healing the relationship with you." I wish could recall where I heard this, but I think this statement is profound.

My intention is to blog more of course, and get out of my head with the ego’s thoughts of “Monica, they don’t want to hear that from you. “ I know, I’m a beautiful work in progress! (So are you!)

What I do know about the ego is that the more you work towards healing the Self, the ego will try to counteract with negativity and false projections.

For example, in my counseling practice, The Clarity and Balance Holistic Center, I always try to outline that ALL HEALING takes place to the point to which you allow-that’s number 1.

 And number 2, counseling is a re-discovery of the self, the process of you, unfolding, layer by layer; much akin to the proverbial onion, which gets quite annoying to peel and sometimes painful, if your eyes are exposed to its aromas. {Side bar- No worries, simply place your eyes in the freezer for about ten seconds and you’re back to feeling good}

I digress, but a counseling experience can be quite similar!

To illustrate, a typical counseling or (awareness session) is one in which you state what’s wrong or not quite working for you in your life. Next, the therapist listens and hopefully attends to you. In other words, she observes and stays in the present moment with you.

You can always tell if someone you’re in conversation with veers off, do you know what I mean?  It’s that thought that rings loudly “uh-oh, I’ve lost them…why the heck did they ask me a question in the first place?”

Anywho, I know I’ve been guilty of the aforementioned at least a time or two, however; I have truly allowed the healing process to work through me and with me to further allow me to remain present and alert.

Additionally, sometimes  in a conversation  a person can have so many preconceived notions of what is supposed to take place that you can’t even be present  and alert or more importantly, AWARE.

 To demonstrate, you may be running down your grocery list or wondering if your kid said that he would need you to pick him up after school because of tutoring, and the therapist awakens you out of your momentary drift and then you feel awkward, perhaps, even embarrassed, and then the negative self talk comes in, "I’m paying this therapist good money, I need to pay attention, I hope it doesn’t last too much longer, I have so much to do.” –incessant chatter…we’ve probably all been there.

In addition, I make mention of this to remind you to be present and allow the healing to take place. Perhaps, consider counseling as a sacred time that is shared between you and your therapist. It’s all about you. The therapist works for you and respects and honors that time. By the by, I believe that once you have selected a therapist, you have probably had a similar relationship in another lifetime. So, healing is inevitable. I know this has been the case for me and my honored clients, both present and past.

So, do you allow yourself to enjoy or learn, or do you get distracted by the ego’s trickery?

 Whatever the response, I ask you to consider counseling as a healthy, nonjudgmental, and newfound awareness to help eliminate the ego’s cob webs of negativity and self-destruction.

I am currently accepting new clients that are ready to try something different and give healing a chance.

As always, if you decide to invest in yourself with counseling and that journey does not include me, I ask you to spread the word and wish you well on your journey of self-love and mastery!

-All are one, One are We-



This is a day of Divine Inspiration for me...

This is a day of Divine Inspiration for me-Louise Hay


Wow! What a way to start the day. According to Esther and Jerry Hicks this is called Deliberate Intending.


I hope you are having a fabulous Monday morning, filled with wondrous and creative possibilities, love and delightful laughter.


Please make today the day that you speak your truth and become more self-aware.


Today, find yourself simply laughing at the Ego’s trickery and foolish manipulation.


Intend for today that you will create an abundant and prosperous day and allow what is to be for you to come in to fruition.


If you are already thinking about ending your day with pulling the covers up, news flash! You can! Well, not technically, with covers and such, but you can metaphorically press "start over" on your DVR,  also known as, your mind! (smile)

 Here's how:

 Take a moment and breathe and become silent. Yes, your Ego may become triggered again to cause you to be distracted, but take another deep cleansing breath, exhale slowly, and simply allow the room and space to become quiet, still, and present. Try to identify four distinct background noises. (I know. Can you believe how much you aren’t aware of; how much you can miss??)


Your inner child and Higher Self are finely and acutely attuned. They are firm and yet kind and whisper to you “Magnificent being on this planet. You have all that you have ever wanted because you are a Creator. The vision of your desires is in your present thought and mind. Allow the full Mastery of YOU to heal the masses and heal within. Be grateful for today and make today a happy day. Blessed be.”


Love to you and Happy Monday,




How was your New Year??

Happy New Year!

My intention for you is that you have a prosperous and abundant 2012 and Namaste!

Before we jump to 2012, let’s back up to 2011. How did you ring in the New Year? Am I the only person that feels uncomfortable with that question?

Well, if so, that’s quite alright, I shall stand alone; maybe it’s just the Indigo in me! (smile)

The question has always felt loaded with pressure, you know?  It’s that feeling of having to have just the right answer, or the most amazing proposal, or the sweetest vacation of your life, or… I think you get the point.

So, I decided two years ago, while watching someone on the television shout aloud “8, 7, 6,” And all I could mutter was “Happy Ne….” and drifted off. I actually felt irritated (smile) by the noise. How dare they interrupt my slumber with their celebrations and such?!

Anywho, I decided to DO nothing. And it felt fantastic…until I was asked about the New Year. Palms sweat, heart races, and boom…I go on this ridiculous tangent and monologue of why I sanctimoniously decided to DO nothing in the comfort of my own home. (Blah, blah, blah)

Okay, I will not berate myself; however, there is a point to my madness. Here it goes? I did what I WANTED to DO!!!

I think people ask the question to be polite and pleasant and perhaps some are genuinely invested in how I spent my time. More importantly, it’s how you choose to spend your time, whom you choose it with, and why? The most important word in the previous sentence is YOU!

I think we get so caught up in formalities, celebrating Christmas, Valentine’s Day, Hanukah, Kwanzaa, etc. and forget about ourselves. Constantly focusing on having enough for so and so, and wondering if this or that looks cheap.

No, I’m certainly not suggesting you become completely self-involved or even stop celebrating, in fact I love the New Year!

Perhaps, allow your true Self to unfold and spend time with you- in the most authentic and humble way that you possibly can.  How do you do this? For starters, you can begin noticing and smiling that you are here on this planet at this Divine time for a Divine reason. If you doubt what I just stated, read about all the energetic shifts, and personal transitions people have made in say, the last two months even?

We all are here for a reason and yes, it’s true, to learn but also to teach! We can teach by example. By being still and allowing our inner voice to come alive and say “nothing” if it wants. I encourage you to do want you want to do and be who you are and the next time someone asks you, "How was your New Year?” Take a moment and laugh and I’ll be saying “it’s a long story.”

Love to you all