A wise woman once asked me...

Manifestation is such a complex yet simple reality. I have definitely manifested things I wanted and others, well, maybe not so much. (smile)

A wise woman once asked me “Are you co-creating or creating?” I looked at her with a perplexed gaze and proceeded “well, I create, I guess. I don’t know, what’s the difference?” The wise woman began to speak “Co-creating is with Spirit and creating is struggling to do it by yourself.” WOW! That makes so much sense. I have done both. Take a moment now and ask yourself the same question.

Co-creating is so much easier, it just flows. You know? It’s when you are journaling and you can’t write the words fast enough, it’s when you are talking on the phone and an idea suddenly encompasses your mind so much so that that person has been calling your name for the past thirty seconds only to find her voice silent amongst your “deaf” ears! Or, it’s in the moment that you are brainstorming with co-workers and you deliver the idea that eventually turns your entire company from the red in to the black.

The other is simply creating. You struggle and constantly find yourself saying “I feel so stuck.” You feel paralyzed with fear and anxiety. You sing and chant, you meditate, you get Reiki treatments, you even recite the entire rosary although you are NOT Catholic, just to get inspiration to create only to feel more exhausted in your efforts of trying to create that you actually create more madness and frustration!

Creation is the Divine’s work. I believe we all agreed to do some form of work on this planet. The choice herein lies with you whether to struggle or not. I know that may sound blunt or harsh, but it’s my truth. It wasn’t until 2008 that I was re-awakened, in other words, I began receiving intuitive messages and actually experienced a deceased loved one speaking to me to speak to a client of mine.  I had been trying to develop my intuition not really knowing why but felt so compelled to try and had been doing so for almost a year. I followed all the books, audios, downloads, MP3s, you name it, I have done it. Only to find it that I was struggling to create instead of Co-Creating with Spirit.

Co-creating with Spirit is allowing and embracing that you are working as a team. It’s not just you alone. This concept might seem elementary to some but it can be difficult because it can feel intangible. However, it’s a knowing. Spirit wants to work through us whether it’s at work, at home, at play, or in deep meditations, Spirit wants to help you achieve your Highest level so that struggle can be eliminated from your life.

I begin teaching Earth Angel Manifestation Circle tonight which has been a Co-Creation full of joy and nervous excitement. I had no intentions of teaching about this, but listened to the gentle whispers nudging me to co-create something else, so there you have it. When you Co-Create, it’s not about your ego-it’s about your evolution. (yeah, I know, constant change is scary, but fun!)

So, what’ll you have a side of create or a full platter of Co-Creation and a limitless pitcher of Divine Abundance to go? Does that complete your order?...

Being comfortable with discomfort

I know,who likes the sound of that? Does it make your skin crawl or does it intrigue you? Either which way it’s all around us.

I was having dinner yesterday with a dear friend of mine who allowed me to ramble on and on, and yet, on again about this topic. Just take a moment and ask yourself, “how many times a day do I allow myself to stay present in the moment and allow what is?” I am partially ashamed and could potentially blame it on my ADD but I take full responsibility for holding up the traffic when the light turned green because I was playing Sudoku on my Blackberry. Yes, I know, how rude! Well, I knew  that light  takes too long for me I and I got caught up. I guess I didn’t want to feel bored. The say, two minute long stoplight, conjured up in me that feeling of being so close to my destination that I had to just hurry up and wait!-Geez, how cruel!(chuckle)

 Although this is in jest, this point actually hits a lot deeper. In your day to day interactions how often are you going on autopilot? To illustrate, you hand the cashier your money, you are already thinking about picking up the kids, “oh I can’t find my keys, oh, I have that meeting tomorrow, and lunch with ..oh, shoot, did I forget to get the sweet potatoes for the soufflé I promised I’d make, uggh, I don’t know?”

“Ma’am, uh, excuse me, you’re change,” says the cashier interrupting the chatter in your mind. “Oh, thanks.” You feel slightly embarrassed and rush off leaving the sweet potatoes that you won’t remember you forgot… again… until you go to bed.-Whew! I know, all that mindless chatter just keeps going and going, but what that little crazy pink bunny on TV doesn’t tell you is that this frantic mind chatter is hazardous to your health to keep going and going and going! You can’t ever be present because you are in a constant state of doing. And why? To perhaps not feel, not know, not see.

That’s why we turn the radio up, take on more responsibilities at work, and never say “no” because we don’t like being uncomfortable. Yep! It definitely goes back to childhood and the inner child that resides within each of us. As soon as we fall, we are asked to get up, and quickly I might add, because we don’t want to be in the way, or dare I say feel embarrassed. Then, as we get older we wonder why the grieving process is so difficult to understand. It’s like you have to completely unlearn to learn new patterns of thinking. Of course, this task may sound insurmountable but it’s a process. I believe it’s awareness. I will not promise that I won’t ever look at my phone again when I’m bored, but I will be more aware. I will notice and observe and practice mindfulness.

I don’t like feeling sad or angry. I don’t like feeling hurt, but guess what? The more we avoid the more we annoy. In other words, the inner child gets annoyed when she is ignored. The inner child was taught to not be comfortable, and we have to re-parent the little one to know that it is okay to feel sad, hurt, scared, or even angry. After all, these are primary emotions that we are all born with. When ignored the inner child feels uncomfortable and fears safety and security. So, the next time you are feeling something that you don’t like, try to tell yourself “It’s okay. You know, that does suck!” Or “hey, it’s alright this feeling will not last forever, AND it’s perfectly okay to feel it.”

Practice being uncomfortable with discomfort, it may not be so bad…

In Love

The POWER struggle...

The woman cried “they just don’t understand me. I have been a great mother!” I have heard this statement all too often sometimes unfortunately so from clients, friends, co-workers, and random people in the grocery store!

I was watching a program, okay, okay, it was Dr. Phil, and anyway, there was a guest with two daughters who were clearly distraught and in emotional turmoil due to their mother’s inability to become empathetic to their childhood issues. In other words, she appeared unable to understand and feel their pain. The women cried and pleaded with their mother to admit wrong doings in their childhood and she remained defensive and helpless.

How many of us have had a similar experience? Maybe not with the narcissistic mother, but a person in your life who acts and thinks very differently from the values and belief system that you have come to know very well, but yet, we expect change from them? No fingers pointed from my direction because I have certainly been guilty of this, however, what to do next. Well, Dr. Phil offered the mother counseling and attended to them for the next, say minute and a half, because this is television but don’t let it get lost in translation. (smile)

We all come from our own “stuff” and filter through the same “stuff” in our interactions with others on a daily basis. Although it may be known “no one has control over you” but does it ring a bell, especially with family members? It’s as if with family there are exceptions. “Oh, that’s just how she is.” Well, that might be the case but it’s how you choose to handle the situation. Are you going to allow the opinions and feelings of that person come into your personal boundary of comfort and space? Additionally, after having interactions with said person you are now having to cleanse with a sea salt bath and constantly soothe your inner child because your little one is so mad at you for having to “behave” around said person.

It’s first understanding the power system within. Truly knowing that your power is a precious gift and that you can choose to either give it away all the time, some of the time, or never. It’s realizing that we can change and adjust as needed, but we have to set the boundaries and honor the power within for ourselves first, not expecting others to do it for us.

Whether it’s your mother or son, friend or foe, look inside first at the issue. What’s really bothering you? Is it the fact your father was so emotionally unavailable he defined emotional as “taking kindness for weakness?” Or your boss who doesn’t understand why you would want that raise knowing there have been budget cuts for the past month and should feel so lucky to even have a job? Either case, allowing other people to have their “stuff” and let them own it is true power. Let them play with it.

I certainly hope that mother from the Dr. Phil show gets the support and help she needs and the women learn that they have honored their inner power for trying. They now know that if their mother decides to change it will be her choice, and how she views the past, is also her choice. The women can now move on lovingly with forgiveness, not harboring resentment and releasing all bitterness. I hope if there is someone in your life with whom you feel the same, please honor your power, and manifest wondrous changes in your life, because you and only you are the only one who can authentically change you.

~Be Well